Effective Non-Physical Discipline

Children always seem to find a way to 'push ourand understood in advance so that children know
buttons' at times and really try our patience.  It'swhat they have coming when they've
easy to feel irritated, sad, angry, annoyed,misbehaved and can give pause and hopefully
confused and hurt.  It's at these times when ourchoose an appropriate route to avoid it.  And
parenting skills are really tested, and that it'smost importantly, remember that it's not the child
imperative we maintain a kind but firm stanceyou dislike; it's his or her chosen behavior, action
when it comes to doling out the discipline.  Andor misdeed.
let's face it - none of us ever want to hurt ourIf you need to, give yourself a brief 'time out'
child with physical or verbal abuse.  We want tobefore responding with appropriate discipline. 
teach our child that such things are wrong, andSometimes we need a short cooling off period
punishing a misdeed or inappropriate action bybefore dealing with our children's misdeeds in
yelling or hitting is hypocritical at best.  order to avoid a misdeed of our own.  Yelling and
Our goal when disciplining our children is to teachhitting should never be an option.  
them to be responsible, cooperative, kind andKeep an open mind as a parent, and be willing to
respectful.  The best way to teach this is tolearn with and from your child.  We all make
always remain consistent, follow through with themistakes and it's important to realize that not
same punishment for the same misdeed, and toevery form of discipline works with every child.
discuss the discipline with your child openly andChildren are just as unique as adults are, and
honestly afterwards.forms of discipline should be tailored to fit the
Always keep in mind that the age, maturity level,individual needs of both parent and child.  But with
and temperament of your child should always bea little forethought, patience, firmness, love and
considered when enforcing a set disciplinaryunderstanding, the discipline can have a positive
action.  Disciplinary actions should be discussedoutcome for all involved.