| "He won't commit to me and I don't know what | | | | why her guy won't commit. If that's what you're |
| to do." That's something that many women say | | | | facing, chances are good that you're just with a |
| once they've fallen in love with a man. Everything | | | | commitment lazy fellow. These are men who |
| feels wonderful and fulfilling until the two of you | | | | resist commitment because they don't want to |
| have the talk. The talk being the one in which he | | | | put in the effort to maintain a long term |
| tells you that he's crazy about you but he's not | | | | relationship. They think that more will be required |
| ready for anything serious. Exactly what should a | | | | of them in terms of emotional effort if they |
| woman do when this happens to her? Is it best | | | | agree to a commitment. The way they view it is |
| to simply wait until he decides it is the right time | | | | very simple. They think that since you two are |
| or are you better off pushing the issue until he | | | | enjoying each other right now and things are |
| does commit? Although every relationship has its | | | | going well, why make a change? In other words, |
| own unique dynamic there are some things that | | | | your man is getting everything he needs from |
| do help when you're faced with this type of | | | | you so he sees absolutely no reason to put in the |
| emotionally challenging situation. | | | | extra effort that a commitment involves. |
| If you've recently thought or said to yourself, "he | | | | You don't want to get stuck in this situation |
| won't commit to me," you need to determine | | | | because it's very difficult to get yourself out of. |
| why that is. Men are commitment phobic for | | | | You love him so you don't want to push him too |
| several reasons. It may be anything from fear of | | | | much for fear of losing him. By the same token |
| losing his freedom to ongoing tensions between | | | | you don't want to become someone he takes for |
| you two. Some men claim they aren't ready to | | | | granted. The solution is relatively simple. You just |
| commit because of financial reasons. Give some | | | | need to demonstrate to him that you're not |
| thought to why you believe he doesn't want to | | | | getting the fulfillment you need from the |
| commit. If you pinpoint something in particular, | | | | relationship. Express that to him and if you get no |
| that's what you need to focus on. You need to | | | | response or he makes a weak effort to improve |
| show him that his reservations are unfounded and | | | | his attitude, make a change. You don't need to |
| that a commitment with you will only enrich his | | | | end things, but you do need to look out for your |
| life. | | | | emotional health more. Don't invest too much of |
| Sometimes, regardless of how hard a woman | | | | yourself in a relationship with a man who won't |
| tries, she can't come up with any logical reason | | | | get serious about you. |