| All your friends seem to be engaged. When you | | | | Being hurt in the past may be another reason |
| see each other, all you talk about are the plans | | | | why he doesn't want to give his all into the |
| for the wedding and where the honeymoon is | | | | relationship. But you can be sure that once the |
| going to be. When you look back, you can't seem | | | | right woman comes along, he'll forget about all the |
| to remember how many of your friends said | | | | hurt and will gladly settle down. That woman could |
| goodbye to being single and embraced the blissful | | | | be you. |
| married life. | | | | In reality, men are "programmed" to think that |
| When you think about it, you're not really a bad | | | | commitment isn't beneficial for them. So it's going |
| woman. You have a successful career, and you're | | | | to be a challenge for you to "re-program" him and |
| an overall good person. But how come all the men | | | | make him think that commitment is something |
| you've dated so far are afraid of the word | | | | that he really needs and can benefit from. |
| commitment? | | | | By now you know that no amount of nagging can |
| Your current boyfriend may be someone you | | | | change his mind. So it is important for you to |
| wish to end up marrying. But every time you talk | | | | understand how your man's mind works so that |
| about marriage, or when you drop hints now and | | | | you can change his mindset to your advantage. |
| then about how happy your married friends are, | | | | He must realize his need of somebody to spend |
| he seems to blank out and stops hearing what | | | | the rest of his life with. You can only do this if |
| you are saying. Talking about moving in together | | | | you stop clinging on to tightly too him and by |
| gets the same response as well. | | | | going back to the kind of woman that he fell for |
| If you can relate to the scenario above, then you | | | | in the beginning. |
| may be dating a man who is "commitment | | | | The change should come from him, but you can |
| phobe" or a man scared of the word | | | | help lead him towards the change that he needs. |
| commitment. | | | | Discover what makes your man tick and use this |
| A "commitment phobe" doesn't believe in the | | | | to your advantage. Let him see what a wonderful |
| word "forever." He may even have doubts about | | | | woman you really are and he'll slowly see you |
| spending "forever" with you. This isn't because he | | | | again in the same light that got him interested in |
| doesn't love you - it's just that he's scared of the | | | | day one. Don't be clingy, but instead be |
| thought of spending his whole life with any one | | | | independent - the kind of woman who knows |
| person. | | | | what she wants and how to get it. |
| For him the mere fact that you're together and | | | | Then he'll see you as somebody he should never |
| that you have a somewhat stable relationship is | | | | let go of. By understanding how his mind works, |
| enough. He'd think that committing to a more | | | | you'll make him go the direction you want him to, |
| serious relationship would curtail all the freedom | | | | and that includes a long-term commitment with |
| that he enjoys. | | | | you. |