So Few to Adopt - So Many to Abuse and Abandon

"Yet another young mother drowns her child," theas an alternative.
headline reads, followed by the details of all theNo one stops to understand the needs of a
possible punishments for committing this horriblecouple who for whatever reason decide not to
deed. Most readers are probably enraged andabort their child and at the same time choose not
shocked at the thought that someone couldto parent this child born to them. Because what
actually commit such a brutal crime. And yet, thiskind of person would give away their own "flesh
is not at all uncommon in our country.and blood?" "Giving away" one's child or deciding
We often read in our local papers about othersnot to parent a child to whom one gives birth is
who have also done horrible things to theirnot a heartless act but rather an enormously
children. (Starve them, beat them and leave themdifficult decision to make.
alone for days.) Each time, we become just a littleIt is a choice for which little support is offered
more upset. What's happening in our country?and one that most of us, fortunately, will never
How can people leave infants on the sides ofhave to make. Until we all recognize that adoption
deserted roads or toss them into garbage cans?is sometimes to only solution and begin to offer
"These people must be punished!" we say tosupport to those who find it necessary to make
ourselves.this choice, infants will continue to be left on
Currently in this country, over forty couples waitdoorsteps or in some cases will be murdered. So,
for each infant available for adoption while morewhile attempts to determine what the appropriate
than 5000 abortions are performed everyday.punishment for this one young mother, I ask each
And yet, people continue to abandon and injurereader to realize that we are actually the guilty
their children. Why? Because we live in a societyones here. Had this young mother approached
that applauds family-planning choices, preparedyou for advice or assistance, how would you
childbirth with instant "bonding" and the allhave responded?
important "bloodlines." Adoption is not perceived of